Monday, August 6, 2012

SPIRITUAL HEALTH! - "How to Deal with Negative People"

Hello! Don't you just love a negative person? lol... Now, I will be the first to admit I am not always the most positive person in the world. Ha!  If fact I have had many people in the past that started to keep their distance from me because of my negative attitude at times.  Over the years I have learned to look and evaluate my life.  What makes a person have a negative attitude?  Yes, situations in your life can play a major role, but many times the people that surround you can put off a negative vibe.... And that my friend can bring you down... Trust God and be sensitive to the Spirit to guide you away from the negative and to focus on the positive! 

How to Deal with Negative People

"Negative people some how can find a way to creep into your circle of positivity. When you have negative people around, they can turn your sweet world into a sour world. If you are not careful
with negative people, they will try to suck the life out of you. If you ever have the chance to examine how you feel after being around a negative person; you'll find that you feel angry, disgusted, exhausted and sad. That is why it is important to know how to deal with negative people. 






First, recognize is not you. Negative people have internal issues in which they show externally through their actions and comments. They have issues they refuse to address in their lives and instead of addressing these issues; they take out their angry and frustration on others. Negative people will try to make you feel like you are the one that don't understand, but don't be fooled. recognize is not you. Negative people have internal issues in which they show externally through their actions and comments. They have issues they refuse to address in their lives and instead of addressing these issues; they take out their angry and frustration on others. Negative people will try to make you feel like you are the one that don't understand, but don't be fooled.



Second, recognize they need help. When a negative person starts to behavior and said things negatively to or about others, it is because they are really crying out for help. They need someone who can see through their negatively and see through their pain, hurt and low self-esteem and help them address it.



Thirdly, when a person comes at you negatively, say something positive to them. A negative person will always try to make you feel as bad as they are feeling. However, when you continue to be positive they will either get mad and go away or your positivity will rub off on them. I always like to ask them questions like, what makes you say or think that way? Or Are you okay, is there something you want to talk about? Usually these questions make them want to stay away, because they hate to be confronted about the real issues at hand.



Fourth, don't ever let a negative person get you angry, they are betting on this to happen. This is how they make themselves feel better, when they see they can hurt someone else. I recall a friend who was always saying negative things and I told her, I don't make friends with negative people, in order to be around me you have to be a positive person, am just not going to allow it. And you know what happen, she turned her attitude around and we have been friend for eight years now. Sometimes you are going to have to confront a negative person. Do not tolerate them, confront them and help them address their issues. 

Lastly, use negative people as a tool to make you a better person. Sometimes people entered your life for a reason. Perhaps, they are divinely placed in your path to grow your maturely, in love towards others, patience and kind towards the unlike. Perhaps you are the only one God can trust to help them without tearing them down, as others have done before. Negative people can be an assignment, will you take the challenge?"

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