Tuesday, July 31, 2012

"DO PETS GO TO HEAVEN?"





Greetings Again! The following is an article that approaches the question of whether or not animals have souls. Over the years many of my clients who are believers in God and who come from the christian faith want to know if they will be reunited with their pets after they pass on. 

 There are many articles available for research with detailed scripture and references... I always tell each of my clients... Do your own research... Knowledge is power... Intuition is a God given gift to each of us.... Trust your gut! Sincere Peace!


Do Pets Go to Heaven?

Will You See Your Beloved Pet Again After They Die?

Jack Wellman


"Why put the question of do pets go to heaven in a book (from which this is an excerpt)? Think about the fact that for some people, pets are considered family. For many people, families, the elderly and others, who are often times alone or their children have gone or they may have never even had children, their pets are exactly the same as a valued and cherished member of the family. In fact they may even treat them better than one of their own. And the treat them as their own child. They baby them, cuddle, rub, feed, and care for their beloved pet as one of their very own, much like a parent loves and esteems their own child. So to these people, this is an important question and since God takes notice when even a sparrow falls to the ground, I have chose to address it. Losing a pet, after years of endearment, affection and companionship, can be an extremely difficult grieving period.


If the answer is in the Bible, I could not find it. Scripture seems to be silent on this subject. It does not exclusively tell us whether our beloved pets will make it to heaven or whether they are gone forever. The Bible does describe an age when the wolf and lamb will lye together in the presence of a little child (Is. 11:6-8). These verses show that animals will be existing in the Kingdom after the return of Christ. Based upon scripture, we know that animals will inhabit the new heaven and the new earth. But what about your pets? Could you also join them in heaven some day?


The Garden of Eden was populated by animals, thus there is a precedent for believing that Eden restored will also be populated by animals. Both man and animals have spirits (Ecles. 3:21). Man's spirit will live on for eternity in one place or another. Man has no advantage over animals in regards to death and having a spirit (Ecls. 3:19 ). They both die. While spirit is eternal, there is no mention about animals having an eternal spirit. But they certainly have a spirit, but the Bible does not say that they will live on forever (Ecles. 3:21).


Throughout the history of the Christian church, the classic understanding by many was that "living things", animals included, have souls. Even Christian writers and thinkers believed this. Even though we cannot say with certainty that the pets we have lost or enjoy today will be resurrected in eternity, I am not willing to preclude the possibility. And neither are some of the keenest thinkers in the world, from C.S. Lewis to Peter Kreeft. These men and others are not only convinced that animals in general, but that pets in particular, will be restored in the resurrection that they stated so in their writings.


Dr. Kreeft, for example, is convinced that animals will exist throughout eternity. "Are there animals in Heaven? The simplest answer is: Why not? How irrational is the prejudice that would allow plants (green fields and flowers), but not animals into Heaven." Regarding pets, he writes: "Would the same animals be in Heaven as on earth? 'Is my dead cat in Heaven?' Again, why not? God can raise up the very stones to worship Himself! Though the blessed have better things to do than to play with pets, the greater does not exclude the lesser." God did make certain that animals survived the flood.


Isaiah 11:6-9 provides a particularly stirring image. The wolf and the lamb will lie down or dwell [live] together, suggests to the reader a specific wolf and lamb. Using the wolf and the lamb seems to indicate one in particular. Using a wolf or a lamb could mean any wolf or lamb as in the case of..."a little child will lead them" (Isaiah 11:6). By the way, it doesn't say the child, but a child, indicating that any of the children then living could lead them. Therefore, animals must still exist after Christ's return in order for this prophecy to be fulfilled. However, we can not fit this into the context that our pets will be in heaven, since that is not the real purpose or meaning of this portion of scripture. That would be a stretch indeed, since if we take text out of context, we can make it a (false) pretext.


There is one thing we can say with certainty. Scripture does provides us with a sufficient precedent for suggesting that animals will continue to exist after the return of our Lord. He will in fact be riding a white horse at His return. And what is to prohibit God from resurrecting our beloved, family-member pets? The real question is are we saved? Seeing our pets in heaven is only great if we ourselves have received Christ and been born again. That is my desire for you and something you can achieve. [see Chapter Eight] But specifically, the Bible is not clear about if pets go to heaven or not. But neither does it completely exclude the possibility."

Friday, July 27, 2012

7 Signs of a People Pleaser


Hello Again!  It is easy to become a "People Pleaser"!  The following is a list of 7 signs of what to look for in a person who finds themselves surrendering their spirit to others.  It is ok to say "No!".  Trust your intuition and God's leading...  If you find yourself slipping into the position of a pleaser of people.. ask God to open your eyes. Allow your spirit to take top priority and direction in connecting with others... Pleasing people is ok as long as you are true to your heart and soul while doing so....  Sincere Peace! =)

7 Signs of a People Pleaser

Are You a People Pleaser?


Wendy Dawn, Yahoo! Contributor Network
Sep 19, 2010



"Living the life of a people pleaser can be unpleasant and even harmful to your health. Trying to please others all the time can cause you to become stressed, depressed, and even angry. According to author and psychologist Les Carter, Ph.D., a life long pattern of pleasing people easily leads to depression and frustration. This is the result of expending too much time and energy trying to figure out what to do or how to behave to keep other people happy.

Before you can change people-pleasing behavior, you must first recognize whether you are a people pleaser. It is not an easy thing to admit, and even more difficult to change. If, however, you are willing to recognize the signs that indicate you are a people pleaser you can begin to work on changing your behavior to live a more happy and satisfied life.

Les Carter, Ph.D., in his book When Pleasing You is Killing Me, points out seven distinct signs of people pleasers. If you find that the 7 signs of a people pleaser is a reflection of your life, thought patterns, and behaviors it may be time to re-evaluate why you do what you do.







7 Signs of a People Pleaser: Duty is a primary motivator.

People pleasers don't tend to do what they are best at or what they most enjoy doing, they do what they feel compelled to do. Essentially, they give up choice and freedom because they feel obligated to perform certain duties and responsibilities. They do what they feel they are supposed to do, not what they want to do.

Living a life that is duty and obligation driven is very frustrating and unfulfilling. You lose out on the experiences and opportunities that you are best cut-out for and would most enjoy. One thing the field of personal coaching has taught us is that you take more responsibility and are more motivated to do those things which you choose to do.

 


7 Signs of a People Pleaser: Legitimate needs are quickly and easily set aside.

 

People pleasers too easily set aside the things they need in their life for contentment and success. This can include matters of survival like money, food, shelter, and clothes and emotional needs. People pleasers fail to focus on their own needs, prioritizing the needs of others, no matter how frivolous, above even their most basic needs to survive. People pleasers discount their own needs as unimportant, even when that isn't the case.

 

It is okay to say "no" when someone else's requests interfere with your needs.





7 Signs of a People Pleaser: Decisiveness makes you feel as if you are hurting others.

 

Assertiveness is not the same thing as selfishness. This is often difficult for people pleasers to internalize. It is important, however, to know that your decisions may influence the way a person feels, but they are not always the cause of another person being hurt. Sometimes others let you know they are hurt or disappointed because you have not served their self-interest or met their needs. They are not thinking about your priorities, they are thinking about their needs and desires. You are responsible for prioritizing your life. You are not responsible for other people's emotional reactions.

The idea of disappointing or hurting others is difficult for people pleasers to let go. It is as if they have, according to Dr. Carter, an overdeveloped conscience and tend to assume too much responsibility for the emotions and demands of others.

Being decisive may frustrate other people, but it is necessary if you ever intend to see to your own needs and responsibilities.




7 Signs of a People Pleaser: Finds it difficult to live within limits.

Everyone is limited in some way - by time, ability, influence, money, and other factors. Often, people pleasers push themselves beyond their limits to keep others happy. They attempt to live as if they have no limits. After all, they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by admitting that they do not have the capacity, means, or time to do something that is requested of them. This results in stress, frustration, anger, and even financial difficulties for the people pleaser.

While it is good to help others, it is also important to realize that your own resources are limited. If you don't, you may one day find out the hard way by burning out. People often want you to ignore the truth about your own limits because they are looking out for their own needs or interests, sometimes you have to do the same.






7 Signs of a People Pleaser: Is sensitive to judgment and criticism.

 

Right or wrong, we are all judged every day. We are judged by our achievements, looks, social skills, emotional expressions, priorities, failures, communication skills and a myriad of other random criteria. Despite the biblical admonition not to judge, people do it every day.

Judgments can offer you a gauge of how you are perceived, but it is harmful to begin owning others judgments of you. When what others think becomes the measuring stick for your success or failure you are putting unrealistic expectations on yourself, which can lead to anger at yourself and frustration for your inability to live up to other's expectations.

Doctor Carter admonishes that you cannot be so aware of the judgment of others that you stop being yourself. Certainly the judgments and opinions of some people in your life are more important than others, but you can be willing to hear what people have to say about you without taking it too seriously. When you do that you are allowing someone else to take the role of God in your life.






7 Signs of a People Pleaser: Feels the need to control life.

Not all people pleasers are being manipulated. Sometimes people perfect the art of people pleasing to push others aside to a lesser role so that they can be in charge. Some people pleasers feel the need to be in control, and the best way for them to maintain control is to try to do everything so that it is done their way.

There is a difference in maintaining structure and keeping everything under your control. You'll be happier, less stressed, and less angry if you realize that sometimes life is out of your control.

This is a very self-serving reason to be a people pleaser and will just as quickly and easily run you down and wear you out. Check your motives to make sure you are not pleasing others in an attempt to wield some control over them.



7 Signs of a People Pleaser: Is dishonest about who they are and what they want.

While this is a stinging indictment of people pleasers, it is also true. People pleasers never want to be thought of as liars, but the very act of living to others expectations and perceptions is dishonest. It allows others to perpetuate their beliefs about who you are and what you do.

Because people pleasers are not living true to themselves they create additional emotional baggage that complicates life. Their dishonesty only serves to distance them emotionally from others because no one really knows who they are. People pleasers are often not true to themselves, and people cannot get to know them because they are always portraying their role - that of a people pleaser.

Openness and disclosure are essential to a happy and healthy life and healthy relationships. Failure to be honest about who you are and what you want, Dr. Carter suggests, leads to emotional isolation, one of the compounding difficult ties of living life as a people pleaser.

In order to be happy and true to yourself, it is important to recognize people pleasing behavior. Label them for what they are, and begin to make efforts to change those behaviors.

 

That does not mean that you have to become self-centered and selfish, but it does give you the freedom to choose what you are best suited to do and what you want to do. Once you are operating on the principle of freedom and choice you will find it easier to take responsibility for what you do, greater motivation to do things well, and greater happiness and satisfaction in life."

Source:

Carter, Les, Ph. D. When Pleasing You is Killing Me: Workbook. 2007.

12 Signs of Depression in Men




Hello Once Again!  The following is an article I came across that gives a list of signs of Depression to identify in men...  Speaking from first  hand experience I understand the importance of being on the look out for these signs.  In my own life dealing with depression and anxiety have been very crippling at times..... And for those loved ones around a person struggling with the darkness of depression it can be very difficult as well.  God can give us insight and provide ways to help those in a time of emotional need.  If you are personally struggling.... be brave and trust your inner spirit to direct you to a safe zone.  There are many people who do their best to stay positive, but there are moments when the darkness slips in and consumes you.  Don't be afraid to reach out....  There is away out of the darkness...  Men and Women who have walked this path know the bleak and loneliness of this road.... But know deep down in your soul that there is light at the end of the tunnel!  God wants are spirit to be free of the darkness!

12 Signs of Depression in Men
"More than 5 million men in the U.S. experience depression each year.
Clinical depression—in women or men—can cause sadness and a loss of interest in once pleasurable activities. But depression can sometimes manifest in different ways in different people.
"While the symptoms used to diagnose depression are the same regardless of gender, often the chief complaint can be different among men and women," says Ian A. Cook, MD, the Miller Family professor of psychiatry at the University of California–Los Angeles.
Here are 12 signs of depression in men.

Fatigue
People who are depressed undergo a series of physical and emotional changes. They can experience fatigue, as well as psychomotor retardation, or a slowing down of physical movements, speech, and thought processes.
According to Josh Klapow, PhD, a clinical psychologist with the University of Alabama at Birmingham's School of Public Health, men are more likely than women to report fatigue and other physical symptoms of depression as their chief complaints.

Sleeping too much or too little
Sleep problems—such as insomnia, waking up very early in the morning, or excessive sleeping—are common depression symptoms.
"[Some people] sleep 12 hours a day and still feel exhausted or toss and turn and wake up every two hours," says Dr. Cook.
Like fatigue, sleep troubles are one of the main symptoms that depressed men may discuss with their doctor, experts say.

Stomachache or backache
Health problems such as constipation or diarrhea, as well as headaches and back pain, are common in people who are depressed.
But men often don't realize that chronic pain and digestive disorders go hand in hand with depression, according to focus groups conducted by the National Institute of Mental Health. Norman Sussman, MD, a professor of psychiatry at the NYU Langone Medical Center, says people who are depressed do genuinely feel bad physically.
"It is a medical disorder," says Dr. Sussman.

Irritability
Instead of seeming down, men who are depressed often show signs of irritability. "If they talk about an emotional component, it could be sadness with irritability," says Dr. Cook.
In addition, says Klapow, negative thoughts are a common aspect of depression. "Men will report feeling irritable because they are having negative thoughts constantly," he says.

Difficulty concentrating
Psychomotor retardation can slow down a man's ability to process information, thereby impairing concentration on work or other tasks.
"Depression fills one with negative thoughts, almost like an intrusion," Klapow says. "You're slowed down and constantly thinking about negative things in your world. As a result it makes it very difficult to focus on anything."
"I describe depression as a form of reversible brain failure, Dr. Sussman says. "When you're depressed, it's like your CPU [central processing unit] isn't working properly."

Anger or hostility
Some men manifest depression by being hostile, angry, or aggressive, says. Dr. Sussman. "A man who realizes something is wrong may need to compensate by demonstrating that he is still strong or capable," he says.
Anger and hostility are different than irritability. "Anger tends to be a stronger emotion," Klapow says. "Irritability is a crankiness."
Dr. Sussman says he's also seen men become hostile when they have withdrawn as a result of their depression and feel under pressure by friends or family to rejoin society.

Stress
"Men might be more likely to report symptoms of depression as stress. It's not that they have more stress; it's that it's more socially acceptable to report it," Klapow says.
According to Dr. Cook, stress and depression can also travel a two-way street. "It's accurate to say that feeling stressed can be an indicator of having clinical depression but also be part of the cause," he says.
Research has shown that prolonged exposure to stress can lead to changes both in the body and brain, which can in turn lead to depression.

Anxiety
Research has shown a strong link between anxiety disorders and depression.
Men may be no more likely than women to experience anxiety—in fact, anxiety disorders are about twice as prevalent in women—but it's often easier for men to talk about feeling anxious rather than sad, Dr. Cook says.
Men may discuss concerns about work and whether the loss of a job will impede their ability to provide for themselves and their family. "It may be easier to put words to worries and fears," Dr. Cook says.

Substance abuse
Substance abuse frequently accompanies depression. Research has shown that alcoholics are almost twice as likely to suffer from major depression as people without a drinking problem.
"It can happen for both men and women, but using drugs or alcohol to mask uncomfortable feelings is a strategy many men will employ instead of seeking health care," says Dr. Cook.
"There's a cultural bias of, 'I should be able to fix this myself and so I'll use what chemicals I have available to me to do that,'" Dr. Cook says.

Sexual dysfunction
Depression is a common reason for loss of desire and erectile dysfunction (ED), and it's one symptom that men are inclined not to report. "Performance problems can come from depression and make depression worse," Dr. Cook says.
However, ED can be the result of other medical conditions or medications (including antidepressants), and ED by itself does not signal depression.
"My strong recommendation...is that you can't go after one symptom; it's a group of symptoms," Klapow says.

Indecision
"I can't count the number of people who have said, 'I had money in the bank but the phone got shut off because I couldn't bring myself to [pay the bill] or decide what to do and when.' It gets overwhelming," Dr. Cook says.
Some people naturally have a hard time making decisions, so an inability to make choices is usually worrisome only if it's a new behavior.
"It's an information-processing issue," and depression slows down your ability to decide, Klapow says.

Suicidal thoughts
Women are more likely to attempt suicide, but men are more than four times as likely to die if they do attempt suicide. One reason is that men tend to choose more lethal methods. "They more often use firearms and kill themselves the first time they try," Dr. Cook says.
Older men are at highest risk for suicide, and doctors may miss depression symptoms in this group. In fact, more than 70% of older suicide victims saw their primary care physician within the month of their death.
Depression is not a normal part of aging in men or women."